3 Benefits of Quality Communication in Marriage by Chesca and Doug Kramer

A few notes from Chesca and Doug Kramer on how quality time and communication help create a happier home and family.

Many say that the passion and intimacy in marriage disappear because both parents are too focused on the kids. As we focus on them more, our partner’s feelings sometimes fall into the back of our minds. We’re quick to assume that they understand our position but forget that they have their needs, too. Here are some notes from Chesca Kramer on how quality time to talk for her and Doug helps create a happy home for their children.

1. It helps make your partner feel “honored, validated, and heard”

One of the most significant sources of marriage conflict is when we feel that our partner no longer “hears” us. There’s that feeling that our emotions are considered invalid, causing us to bury them inside and letting the negativity fester. But making that extra effort for quality time to talk isn’t just for us to make sure our partners hear us. As Chesca writes, “Those conversations make me feel validated, honored, and heard. Best of all, I also get to know you better and know what is in your heart. I love knowing you and I love growing with you.”

Taking the time might be hard but it’s a conscious effort from both sides.

2. Quality communication lessens judgment

When we don’t practice quality communication, it’s quicker for us to judge our partners and feel that they don’t know their roles. But sometimes, we judge our partners by our standards which may or may not be applicable to them. Listening to an open and accepting heart and practicing “active listening” creates a safe space for both sides. It allows love and trust to grow instead of just tearing each other down. “I can listen with an accepting heart and not look at it as an attack. I also know when I want to be heard and I can always come to you,” writes Chesca.

3. It adds more value to the marriage.

Quality communication means complementing each other’s strengths and weaknesses. But at the same time, renewing and manifesting that choice to choose one another every day. For Doug and Chesca, who are swamped with being parents and professionals, their quality communication helps them cherish their marriage. Moreover, it continues to add value to themselves, one another, and as a whole.

Quality Communication Between Partners Creates a Child’s Dream Home

Our homes should be our kids’ safe spaces. And to create or foster that safe space, we need to love both them and our partners. Loving our partners shows our kids an example of what a true home looks like and forms a solid foundation for them. As Chesca says, “Our children are blessed to have a happy home because you love their mother well!”

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