Real Talk

To Moms: Don’t Feel Guilty About Not Being Your Best Today

by Gretchen Gatan Fragada
November 9, 2022

To all moms, what’s something that you have been feeling guilty about lately?

When you become a mother, you’re always trying to improve yourself to be the best for your child. And when you feel like you’re failing, you start to beat yourself up and feel guilty. However, we need to remind ourselves that our children don’t need a perfect mom—they just need a happy and healthy one. One who can give them unconditional love and care.

Let’s not be too hard on ourselves

When something seems to go bad in our day, we have to learn to let it go. Besides, that might just be one really small part of the bigger picture. You may have lost your temper, served a meal that wasn’t so healthy or balanced, or given your child a little more screen time so you can catch up on work or rest. Plus, your home might be a little dirty or messy so that again, you can catch up on work or rest. Whatever it is, remember that you are human. And humans are beautifully imperfect!

Everyone has bad days

We try so hard to be super moms but the truth is, we can’t do it all. It’s normal to have bad or ugly days. But it’s also a good reminder that our children don’t need a perfect mom. They just need us to love them. It’s easier said than done but try not to feel guilty on those bad or ugly days.

Whenever you wake up each day trying again with love at the core of what you do—remember: that is your best today, momma.