Empress Schuck-Guingona On Miscarriage: “I’m Still Not Sure How To Talk About It.”
Empress Schuck-Guingona isn’t the only mom or woman who’s still finding out how to easily speak about miscarriage.
Miscarriage is not just the death of a baby but also of a dream. For many women or moms who dream of big families, a miscarriage is a nightmare that they can’t fix or control. While some have biological causes, others have no explained ones. And when it does happen, moms become like celebrity Empress Schuck-Guingona who perhaps had to slowly watch the loss of her eggs during miscarriage.
“From two embryos, to one, then to none.” Empress mourns through her post on Instagram, while sharing a sonogram of the implanted eggs. “This year, we would’ve been a family of four or even five.”
Grief makes Miscarriage difficult to talk about.
How does a mother grieve for a life she never got to physically meet?
Our grief grows the more we know a person. We meet with them, talk to them, eat, and learn all about their quirks which eventually become a part of our lives. And when they do pass on to the next life, they leave a void behind: the world they made with us — one that needs to adjust to their passing.
That same void can be numbing and logically, for many, it doesn’t make sense to mourn for a person we’ve never met. But for a mother and her unborn child, they already did meet. The blood chemical changes, the moodiness because of hormones, the recurring bouts of morning sickness, and most of all, the strange but hilarious cravings: it’s through these bodily events that moms already meet their babies.
But when the baby doesn’t make it, it leaves with a numbing heartbreak. Although we welcome the disappearance of the more troublesome symptoms that come with pregnancy, we mourn for the dream of ever meeting our little person. It’s why, through this moment of grief, Empress Schuck-Guingona finds solace in reminding herself that maybe, having a baby this year just wasn’t meant to be.
“I just know that sometimes our plans for ourselves don’t align with God’s plans for us,” she reveals.
Miscarriage is not meant to be suffered alone.
While there’s a plethora of reasons why miscarriage happens, the most important part for moms is to find support when it does. Empress Schuck finds that in her husband who she says has been “by her side” to help her settle her feelings after the loss their baby.
“To my husband @vinoguingona, you are truly God’s blessing to me. We may not exactly understand how we feel about this but having each other is enough to say that everything will be ok. To our family who showed us care and love, thank you and we appreciate all of you.”
Both Empress and Vino welcomed a baby girl, Athalia, in 2015. The little girl is currently 7 years old.
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