Real Talk

Mikaela Lagdameo Shares a Co-Parenting Truth: “What Matters is We Show Up for Our Children.”

Model and content creator Mikaela Lagdameo shares a co-parenting truth as a caption for her son’s, 7th birthday.

One of the greatest and most common difficulties that co-parents go through is trying to deal with their partner without exposing their child to their grown-up issues. Especially during birthdays, it’s a breath of fresh air seeing co-parents celebrate the occasion together instead of separately. While having two parties is great, I’m sure that seeing mom and dad together will mean more to the kids. But the truth is, as Mikaela Lagdameo shares, all that matters is that parents “love them [their kids] with all that they are.” No matter what the situation is or was.

Mikaela Lagdameo and her son
Mikaela Lagdameo with 7-year-old Maxen Lucas
Source: Mikaela Lagdameo Instagram

“Our situation may be different, and that’s okay. What’s important is that we show up for children, push all issues aside, and love them with all that we are,” writes Mikaela.

Birthdays are always a big deal!

Co-parents are aware of how big of a deal their child’s birthday is. Even if it means putting their differences aside just for a day and enjoying being in the moment. A family photo is worth a lot to an adult who will look back on his or her childhood memories. Mikaela expounds further on that truth: “Our lives have definitely changed, but that shouldn’t stop us from celebrating the lives that matter most to us, our children.”

Mikaela Lagdameo and family
Mikaela Lagdameo with the whole family
Source: Mikaela Lagdameo Instagram

Because as our children grow older, what they see from our relationship with our partners will serve as a basis for how their relationship will be. Although some fear that coming from a “broken family” may cause history to repeat itself, it depends on how the family processes it.

“Despite all differences and disagreements, here we are just trying to be the best parents we can be,” Mikaela adds.

That’s another truth to co-parenting: it’s a struggle to find common ground, but the most common ground co-parents have is wanting the best lives for their children.

Co-parenting doesn’t mean your kids should feel less of your love!

It’s like what the late Robin Williams once said as Mrs. Doubtfire: “You know, some parents, when they’re angry, they get along much better when they don’t live together. They don’t fight all the time, and they can become better people, and much better mummies and daddies for you [their kids].”

When some separations become stressful, it’s difficult to stop the toxicity from affecting your abilities as a co-parent. But it’s because co-parents are aware of how stressful the arrangements are that they become willing to put their issues aside for just one day. While their kids won’t know the struggle of planning a birthday party (until they’re much older), they will look back and remember how much their parents loved them because they put their issues aside temporarily to celebrate their special day.

No drama. Just a lot of love.

More truths to co-parenting?

These Celebrity Parents Are Co-Parenting Goals
Ellie Eigenmann’s Birthday Shows Jake and Andi are Co-Parenting Goals!
Max Collins on Co-Parenting with Pancho Magno

Order your Modern Parenting magazine's print copy:
Download this month's Modern Parenting magazine digital copy from:
Subscribe via [email protected]